The Wound That Wears a Suit

You can’t always see it, but you can feel it. A man speaks with power, but it feels like fear. He demands obedience, but he’s craving validation. He builds an empire, but deep down, he’s trying to prove he’s worthy of love.

This is not leadership. This is survival.

Most men were never taught emotional safety. They were told to “man up” instead of speak out. To dominate instead of feel. To avoid softness, because softness was shameful.

But what happens when millions of boys/girls grow into adults who never heal? They carry forward the wound. And because pain that is not healed becomes pain that is passed on, they build systems that mirror their brokenness: rigid, fearful, disconnected, angry.

Power becomes a mask they wear to hide how small they feel inside

Rejection and Resentment: The Roots of Destruction

Psychologists agree: childhood rejection, especially from parents, is one of the deepest sources of adult dysfunction. The child who felt unseen becomes the adult who demands attention. The child who felt unworthy becomes the man who punishes others to feel superior.

Resentment is born when love is not returned. When “I love you” is met with silence, criticism, or abandonment, a soul closes itself. That closed heart doesn’t disappear, it becomes a weapon.

We see this everywhere:

• Fathers/mothers emotionally distant from their children
• Leaders obsessed with control
• Husbands/wives who cannot listen without exploding
• Teachers who belittle instead of build
• Governments who punish instead of protect

These are not just bad behaviors. These are the symptoms of a deeper epidemic: the traumatized soul.

When the Inner Child Takes the Throne

Imagine a five-year-old who was told he wasn’t good enough. He grows up but never heals. He becomes a man, then a leader. He gets a microphone, a pulpit, a title. Now his inner child is making national decisions.

This isn’t metaphor. This is happening.

Governments led by ego instead of empathy. Homes ruled by silence instead of softness. Schools that shame creativity. Religious systems that weaponize obedience instead of awaken divinity.

When unresolved pain sits in positions of power, it recreates itself. It punishes the world for a wound it hasn’t named. It cannot lead with love because it never received it.

The Chain Reaction in Relationships, Homes & Nations

What starts in the soul always ripples into society.

Unhealed leaders raise wounded children. Broken fathers/mothers break homes. And broken homes build nations full of fear, dysfunction, and division.

That’s why trauma is not just a personal issue, it’s a national crisis. Until we normalize healing, therapy, emotional honesty, and spiritual reconnection, we are not building nations, we’re just hiding our pain behind titles, roles, rules, and flags.

And we wonder why there’s so much violence, abuse, corruption, and betrayal.

The truth? Hurt people are still running the world.

Elders, Rise: It’s Time to Lead with Wisdom Again

This generation doesn’t just need Souls in power. It needs elders with presence. Not perfect elders, but whole elders. Men who have faced their shadows and made peace with their pain. Men who don’t need to dominate because they’ve remembered how to love.

In ancient cultures, elders were sacred. They carried wisdom, not weapons. Their voices calmed storms. Their presence guided tribes. Their hearts protected the people.

We need that again.

We need fathers who protect all genders, not just daughters. We need men who believe in goodwill toward all, not just those who agree with them. We need to restore the masculine soul, not shame it, but awaken it.